One of the first things I ask my clients after they have shared with me what brought them to me is, “Are you willing to let go of your story?” This is often met with head scratching and wondering what do I mean by that, exactly?
When you talk about your history, you speak in absolutes, right? You might say that you had a normal childhood where your father was absent and your mother drank too much. Or maybe you’d say that you did what you had to do to get by. Or maybe you’d say that your family has a history of heart disease and so you’re taking preventative medication to keep you healthy. Something like that.
Most often when people come to see me, they are talking about their ailments and condition, their pains – both physical and emotional – in absolutes. “My bones have been rubbing together for years now, and I just accept the pain because it’s just going to get worse.” Or “Arthritis is just part of my family history and I will always have these flareups.”
So when I hear this, and I ask you “Are you willing to let go of your story?” I’m asking you if you are open to releasing these absolute statements about your circumstances. Because remember, those atom-smashing-physicists have proven that thoughts are things. And so, when you think, “it’s going to get worse,” guess what happens? 😉 You’re with me, I know.
Now, all of this isn’t to invite you to walk away from your experience, or to deny it. We’ve all come from somewhere, we’ve all known pain and heartbreak in some way, and those experiences have shaped us into who we are today. And who you are today is Amazing. What I do ask is that if you are open to letting go of your story, that you say, “In the past my bones have been rubbing together and it’s been painful.” It’s still a very true statement for that person; but those 3 words at the start, “In the past,” signal to the Universe that you are open to change.
And once you are open to change, you can begin to heal. Isn’t that what we all want?
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