Let’s talk about absolutes. It is my deepest belief that the only absolutes are there are no absolutes! No absolute truths, no absolutely correct ways to approach an experience. There is nothing about you that is absolute either. This is because our souls are everlasting. They have no real beginning per se, and there is no finite end. With every encounter, every choice, every experience, we gain more information and we become something more than we were.
When we speak in absolutes, “I know myself, and I know that I will run from success,” we limit our capacity to experience something more than we currently are. We shut down our soul’s longing to evolve. To learn and to grow is why we are here, but if we are so caught up in knowing everything already, we are unable to know anymore more.
This is also true of anything that we attribute an absolute statement to. Meaning, “Why vote, nothing will change.” Or “I know how my mother-in-law will react.” Or, “That company is a terrible company.” All of these are opinions that you have formed based on past interactions. They are your perspective, and because of that they are true statements. The trouble is, couched in that language of absolute, there is no space for change. When you say you know how your mother-in-law will react, you are basing this on who she was the last time you approached something similar to what you’re thinking about talking to her about this time. Since you last spoke with her though, she’s had experiences, and she has changed.
So how can you honour your experience, while allowing for growth? With 3 little words: “In the past.” So you say, “In the past, I have run from success.” It’s still a true statement for you, but it acknowledges that you’ve changed and it allows your higher self to make a different choice this time. These 3 little words will stop a pattern in it’s tracks, and will free you from feeling trapped.
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